I always enjoy reading “day in the life” posts, but the ones I read are often from the perspective of the stay-at-home or work-at-home mom. I was listening to a Fresh Air interview with Amy Poehler the other day, and she said something that really resonated with me when she discussed the pressures that come with being a working mother (she started on “Parks and Rec” only a few months after giving birth to her first son):
There’s not enough, in my opinion—not enough working mothers who talk about who they leaned on and how they got through that difficult time; there’s this thing where nobody likes to talk about how difficult things are; everybody likes to talk about how easy it is, or can be if you do x,y, and z. But it’s difficult to be away from your baby, and to be working hard and also want to be working.
This whole working mother thing is so tricky. I thought maybe it would get easier this year—Lila is in school five days a week, from 9 to 1. This corresponds well with my teaching schedule, but somehow I *still* feel so rushed on many days. It’s been a real challenge, especially during this first semester, to figure out the schedule balance—who’s dropping her off, who’s picking her up, my classes, Ryan’s classes, meetings that one or sometimes both of us have to attend…whew.
And I’m still terrified that I’m going to forget her at school one day:
It hasn’t happened yet, but I just know it’s coming.
Anyway, I figured I’d do a day-in-the-life post detailing what our days look like right now so that at least the other mothers and fathers who are out there dealing with the same kind of crazy days that we are won’t feel like they’re alone in the mayhem.
6:15—Lila wakes up. I know this because I can hear screams of “I LOVE GASTON! I LOVE KRISTOFF! I LOVE FLYNN RIDER, HE IS MY FRIEND!” over the monitor. I’m not even really sure why we use the monitor anymore. I know when Lila is awake. Anyone within a 100 foot radius of our house knows when Lila is awake.
I let Lila “talk” a little more (“I’M AWAKE! MOM, DAD, I’M AWAKE! I’M BEAUTIFUL!”), and go downstairs to make a cup of coffee:
(Oh, right, writing—I should probably do that again eventually…)
The whole world seems a little brighter. I go back upstairs and read with Lila until about 7, when we head downstairs for breakfast.
7:00—Ryan is awake now too, and makes breakfast for Lila (a waffle with peanut butter and a banana). He also makes her lunch while we’re waiting for the waffle. We’ve all become pretty good at multi-tasking.
I end up eating breakfast as well—the same exact thing, actually. Peanut butter waffle and banana. We talk about what Lila might do in school today (learn about turkeys). We talk about Frozen (apparently Kristoff and Lila are engaged to be married). Lila tells me she wants a dress and a necklace and a bracelet and a crown for Christmas. Good luck, kid.
Around 7:30, I take Ella and Emma out for a walk. Ryan and Lila (and Baxter) head upstairs for Lila’s bath.
I’m happy to get out with them. We walk for about a half hour. It’s always nice to get a walk in in the morning, especially because I don’t usually get a real workout in on days that I teach.
When I get home, Lila is still in the bathtub, playing. I pick out her outfit for the day and hop in the shower. Ryan and I are pretty good about sharing tasks and delegating, but choosing Lila’s outfit generally falls to me. I think we’re all still recovering a little from the time he took her to the farmer’s market in just a t-shirt and no pants. #neverforget
Ryan dresses Lila, I dress myself, and we’re out the door (me and Lila, that is), by 8:50.
9:05—I drop Lila off at school and head up to school myself. I get some more coffee and grade and answer e-mails in my office until 10:20, when my first class starts.
10:20-12: 30—I teach my composition classes. My students are still calling me Webdog, three months in. Good times.
12:30—I wolf down a microwave lunch: Annie’s tofu breakfast scramble. It was the only thing I could grab from our freezer on my way out the door.
It’s actually pretty tasty. Good not great, as Dwight would say.
12:45—I meet with a student I’m doing an independent study with. “You still haven’t turned in your pantoum!” I chastise. I tell him that the poems that are the hardest to write are the ones that are the most worth writing. I tell him that MFA programs are good for the soul. I have become some sort of creative writing instructor cliché.
Also at 12:45, Ryan leaves to pick Lila up from school.
When my meeting is over, I head home as well. It’s a good 25 minute drive from campus back to our house, but I don’t teach again until 5:30, and the thought of staying on campus ALL day and not seeing Lila again until 7:00 is just no good. So I drive home.
When I get home around 2, Lila is napping. This is good—naps have been a total crapshoot since she started school. I have a few hours to kill, so I read and comment on my students’ short stories, and then I close my eyes for a twenty minute power nap. It helps—I wake up feeling refreshed.
4:00—I’m heading out the door to go back up to campus when Lila finally wakes up. I get one extra-sweet cuddle out of her before I leave:
4:30—Back up at school. I answer more e-mails, grade, and putter around until my class starts at 5:30.
5:30-6:55—teaching. We workshop short stories, and I worry that we’re too harsh on one. I ask the student to stay after class to make sure that he feels okay with the way that workshop went. “Oh yeah, that was great!” he says without a hint of sarcasm. Sometimes the students are tougher than you think.
While I teach, Ryan sends me a picture to show me what he and Lila are up to. Apparently they’re trying to decide who looks better in a pink cape:
It might be a toss-up.
7:25—I get home again. Lila and Ryan are reading the Berenstein Bears trick-or-treating book, which she is still obsessed with despite Halloween being over. It’s time for bed, but she pulls the “ONE MORE BOOK!” trick, so I read it to her one more time while Ryan finishes dinner:
7:35—Lila goes to sleep. Ryan and I settle down for some chili, enjoyed while watching The League:
9:00—I’m beat. We head upstairs to read, and it’s probably only 9:20 before my eyes are closing. Good. Night.
So there it is—my day in a nutshell.
(Please tell me you get this joke.)
Tuesdays and Thursdays are usually more laid-back because I don’t teach on those days. Plus, I get to spend much more time with Lila on those days because Ryan teaches all afternoon and evening. So those days are more fun…and sometimes more stressful in a different way.
It’s not always easy, but we make it work. But only because Tim Gunn tells us to.
xx, Happy weekend!
Hey there! Hope you had a great Halloween! Our weekend was a fun one. We kicked off the Halloween festivities on Thursday night with a little pumpkin carving:
Lila loved them.
On Friday, Lila got to dress up for school. Can you guess what she decided to go as?
Was there ever any question, really?
The kids got to trick or treat around the school and then had a party.
After a long nap (thank God), we headed over to our friends’ house to do some trick or treating around the neighborhood.
The kids REALLY got into knocking on the door, and Lila loved yelling “Trick or Treat!” She kept saying “I do it ALL by myself!” Guess that independent streak has kicked in.
For the party, I brought a Halloween version of five layer dip with guac, black beans, salsa, greek yogurt (instead of sour cream), and cheese, topped off with a black olive jack o lantern face:
Aaaaaaand now I need to do a juice cleanse until Thanksgiving.
I kid, of course, but seriously—I’m trying to cut back until the next holiday rolls around. We’ve been indulging a bit too much lately—as in, so much that my jeans are tight. Anybody have any November health goals out there? I’ve been lacking in motivation lately…
Have a good Monday!
Hi friends! Happy Monday! I’m ready to get this week over with—I have papers to comment on and poetry portfolios to grade, and then this weekend, we’re headed up to North Carolina to see one of my very best friends get married! Hurry up, weekend!
We had a good weekend—unlike last weekend, our weather was beautiful all weekend long—sunny skies, crisp temps…perfect fall weather!
Friday night, we stayed in and watched a “scary” movie (Drag Me To Hell—meh). I made this super-easy lamb and butternut squash ragout that we both agreed was REALLY tasty. It was also super easy.
Lamb and Butternut Squash Ragout
1 lb. ground lamb
1 large onion, chopped
1/2 a butternut squash, peeled and chopped
1/2 tsp. garlic salt (you can use more or less depending on the sodium level of your stock)
1 tbsp. garam masala
1/2 cup golden raisins
4 cups chicken stock
Heat a tbsp. of oil in a deep pot. Add onion and cook until starting to brown. Add lamb and use the back of a wooden spoon to break up the lamb into small chunks as it browns. Cook for about 10 minutes. Add butternut squash, garlic salt, and garam masala. Stir well to combine. Add raisins and chicken stock. Bring to a boil. Reduce to a high simmer and continue to simmer uncovered until the liquid has reduced and the ragout is thick, about thirty minutes.
Serve over couscous.
It was so delicious that even Tenny couldn’t resist trying to sneak a bite as I snapped a pic.
On Saturday, we had a Halloween party to go to—and we needed to pull together some costumes! Lila told us that she wanted to go as a cat…so we decided to ALL be cats!
Cat, Cat Stevens, and Katniss, that is. It was a pretty clever costume idea, if I do say so myself. Unfortunately, Lila had a breakdown at the party about not being there as Elsa. Costume remorse is real, y’all.
We brought some cookies to the party, which Lila helped me bake earlier in the day:
Pumpkin Spice White Chocolate Chip Cookies
2 cups flour
1/2 tsp. baking soda
1/4 tsp. baking powder
1/2 tsp. salt
1 tbsp. pumpkin pie spice
1.5 sticks softened butter
1 cup packed light brown sugar
1/2 cup granulated sugar
1 egg, plus 1 egg yolk
1 tbsp. vanilla extract
1 cup white chocolate chips
Heat oven to 325.
In a mixing bowl, mix together the flour, baking soda, baking powder, and spices.
In a standing mixing bowl, combine butter and sugars. Cream together until light and fluffy. Add egg vanilla and beat for another minute.
Slowly add dry ingredients to butter/egg mixture, beating to combine. Once fully mixed, turn off the mixer and add the white chocolate chips, mixing by hand until combined.
On a non-stick baking sheet, place cookie dough by tbsp., at least two inches apart. Bake at 325 for about 12 minutes. If you desire soft cookies (and I do!), take them out when they still look a little undercooked (about 11 minutes) and allow them to cook on the baking sheet for another minute or two before switching them over to a cooling rack.
Sadly, I didn’t get any pictures of the final cookie—but we did get a lot of pictures of us baking!
Lila’s favorite part was obviously eating the chips.
The party was a great time, and we spent Sunday relaxing and prepping for the week ahead. Lila helped me cook again—this time, we made some leek and white bean soup for dinner:
I really do think that helping me cook means that Lila is way more likely to actually eat the food. She kept saying, “We made this soup!” during dinner.
Off to shower and get ready for school—have a great day!
Hi friends! Did you have a good weekend?
We had a good one here…started it with only two dogs, and somehow had three by the time Sunday rolled around:
Yep…that’s one more cattledog than we normally have.
I’ve been following Emma for a while on Facebook—obviously we have a soft spot for Australian Cattledogs in our family, and Emma looked like a great one. The local shelter she was staying with kept posting pictures of her, and I would think, Man, somebody needs to adopt this dog!
When they put a call out for foster homes due to an influx at the city shelter, I decided that we should foster Emma for a while. She came over and met our dogs and Tenny (our cat) on Saturday afternoon, and did good with all of them, and with Lila as well.
She was standoffish at first, but warmed up really (really) quickly:
Now the only thing that remains to be seen is if she stays a foster…or joins our family for good, haha.
Other than that, this weekend was pretty relaxing. We went to a game night at our friends’ house on Saturday—our second “Cards Against Humanities” game in as many weeks. We went to church the next day, which was probably needed.
I made some easy turkey vegetable soup last night:
And cooked up this coconut chicken curry soup in the slow cooker this afternoon. SUPER easy and yummy—it was just 2.5 cups chicken broth and 1 can of coconut milk (full fat), 3 tbsp. red curry paste, 2 tbsp. chopped fresh ginger, 1 tsp. garlic salt, and 4 chicken breasts in the slow cooker. I cooked it on high for 3 hours, then added chopped zucchini and cooked it for another hour. When it was done cooking, I shredded the chicken before serving:
I wish we’d added more vegetables—I think canned tomatoes, mushrooms, and peppers would make delicious additions. Maybe even broccoli and snow peas—go wild!
My pictures officially suck, but at least I shared some of what we’ve been eating, right?
Thank you for all of your comments about my last post—it means a lot to me. Hope you have a great night—I’m off to snuggle with two cattledogs, a terrier, a cat, and my husband.
Kind of a random title, right?
I woke up at 6am this morning and Ryan and Lila are still sleeping soundly (jerks), so I decided to blog about some of what’s going on right now.
Workouts went a little better this week. I’m still disappointed in my lack of movement on days that I teach (MWF). I’m on my feet for about 3 hours straight while I teach, so I guess that counts as something. Still, my steps are always down on those days, and I just haven’t been able to push myself to get up early to workout, or go to the gym in the afternoon. Now that the weather is starting to cool off and I can go outside without looking like this in five minutes:
…maybe I can start going on walks in between my morning and afternoon classes.
Anyway—I did get a run in on Tuesday morning (4 miles) and then worked out at our neighborhood gym on Thursday morning. Tuesday and Thursday are no problem—and because of my lack of exercise on other days, I will say I try to push myself hard at the gym on those days, especially with the weights.
Still, I’d like to add at least one more “formal” workout to my weekday routine. It just feels good to break a sweat. Right ladies?
Okay, I’m done. I promise.
Except to say that I can’t stop watching this video, and I really want to do this with some of my friends.
On a more serious note—I start Clomid this week.
Remember this post I wrote about how we were going to start trying for baby number two this summer? Well, we actually started back at the end of April, with the idea that if I got pregnant, I would just take the 2015 spring semester off. But it didn’t happen…and didn’t happen…and still hasn’t happened.
A lot of doctors say that if you’re under 35 you should try for a year before seeing your doctor, but my doctor (whom I LOVE) told me to come in if I wasn’t pregnant after six months of trying. Last month we hit the six month mark, so I went in and talked to her.
Ryan checks out fine, and my blood/hormone levels were all normal, so she’s putting me on a low dose of Clomid this month to see if that will help.
I’ve been tracking my ovulation regularly with kits, with success each month, so I don’t really think the ovulation is the issue. Honestly, I don’t know what the issue is. I know a LOT of couples try for way longer than six months—I have friends who have had to try for years to get pregnant. So trust me, I don’t want this to become a “woe is me” kind of post. I know we’re still in the early stages of trying.
Still, with Lila, we got pregnant without really trying—it happened so quickly, it kind of scared me. So I guess I just assumed the second one would happen quickly as well. And now that it’s taking a while, it’s pretty frustrating. A lot of the fun has gone out of it. When it’s go time, imagine this:
Except instead of Jennifer Lawrence, it’s me. And I’m wearing fleece pajamas and a facemask. And I’m frantically waving a positive ovulation stick back and forth.
Anyway, I thought about not really writing about this on the blog. But, I wanted to be open about what we’re going through—again, I think there’s a misconception that if it happens easy once, it will happen easy twice. We’re proof that that isn’t necessarily true. And honestly, I kind of feel guilty even feeling pissed off about it—after all, we already have one child. What right do we have to feel exasperated about not having a second one as quickly as we’d like?
But when I went to see my doctor, she looked at me and said, “Well, when your heart decides you want another one, you want it right away.”
And I basically started crying.
Things have been a little emotional over here lately.
I’ve heard the Clomid helps with that.
I’ll let you know how it goes.
Hi friends! It’s a new month—welcome to October! I was feeling reminiscent about Lila’s first Halloween this morning, when she dressed as this sweet lil’ Lion:
How on earth was this only two years ago?!
I think this year she’ll be a little more excited to be in her costume, which I have a feeling will start with a Prin and end with a cess.
We’ve been a little better about cooking around here lately. We had a game night with friends and made the butternut squash lasagna, as well as a vegan lasagna for our non meat-eating friends. I followed a recipe online for an easy tofu-spinach “ricotta”:
To the tofu (firm) and thawed spinach (water pressed out), I added nutritional yeast, garlic salt, and a bit of lemon juice.
I sauteed some vegetables (carrots, zucchini, mushrooms) to put in between the layers of lasagna noodles, along with tomato sauce and the faux ricotta.
Lasagna can be a little labor-intensive. Luckily, I had Queen Elsa on hand to assist with the assemblage:
Who knew that Queen Elsa was such a great sous chef?
The resulting lasagna was very tasty, and fed us for a couple of days after the party!
I also made a super (souper?) easy soup on this past Sunday afternoon. We had some leftover fruits and veggies in the refrigerator that needed to be used up, so I chopped them into large chunks, tossed them with olive oil and garlic salt, and roasted them at 400 degrees for 25 minutes, until they were easily pierced with a fork.
Butternut squash, carrots, and apples, pre and post roast.
Then, on Monday night while I was teaching, Ryan just blended the veggies with a little bit of chicken broth and heated it up over the stove. Instant veggie soup!
It was really nice to come home to a bowl of warm soup and a grilled cheese sandwich after a long day (and night) of teaching.
A couple of tasty fall meals! Welcome to October!
Hey there! I don’t have a specific post or recipe to share, but I thought I’d play a little catch-up on the ol’ blog. Things have calmed down a bit around here—I had a few days last week and this week that were totally open, so I was able to get work done for classes and even hit the gym a few times. I think I just get used to having SUCH an open schedule in the summer that when it’s time to return to classes and my time is more limited, there’s a bit of an adjustment period.
Two things have been helping me get back into regular workouts—1) I’m just making them a priority. It’s really easy to sleep in now that Lila is waking up a little later (like, 7 instead of 6), but I’ve come to realize that especially on the days I teach, those early morning hours are the only time I’m going to go to the gym. Lila is in school all morning until 1:00, so I hate to drag her to the childcare at our Y after I haven’t seen her in the morning. Plus, on the days that I teach, I shower in the morning before my 10 and 11 o’clock classes, and I don’t want to workout, get all gross, and have to shower AGAIN before my evening class.
Eh, it’s all very complicated. What it boils down to is that I’ve been waking up at 6:15, going to the gym in our neighborhood (instead of driving all the way to the Y), and getting my workout done first thing. And I kind of love it. It’s *really* nice to have a workout over and done with before breakfast. And our neighborhood gym is actually surprisingly nice—I’m kind of mad at myself for just now starting to use it! The fact that is is literally 2 minutes down the street from us, as opposed to 15 minutes away like the Y, is so convenient.
So anyway—that’s what’s going on on the workout front.
Let’s see…what else. Did I tell you that Lila is taking ballet classes?
I mean…it’s basically the cutest thing ever. The only way it could get cuter is if they released a bunch of puppies into the studio, halfway through the class. She loves the classes, too—maybe we have a prima ballerina on our hands?
We’ve had some really nice sunny weather, although it still needs to drop about five degrees for it to actually feel like fall. We’re getting there though. We went on a hike this past weekend:
….and I officially wanted a sweatshirt to wear over my tank top.
We tried to get a picture of all “the kids” at the top of the mountain:
…but it was pretty much a fail. At least we got a picture of the humans:
Other than that…not much going on here. Tonight is Thursday, which means a trip to the farmers’ market. Ready for the weekend, for sure! Hope your week has been a great one!